Breaking Through Grief: The Ultimate Crash Course to Healing and Awakening

Grief—The Heavy Weight of Loss and Love

By MUKADAM AJETUNMOBI

3/24/20254 min read

a man with his hands together in prayer
a man with his hands together in prayer

Breaking Through Grief: The Ultimate Crash Course to Healing and Awakening

Introduction: Grief—The Heavy Weight of Loss and Love

Grief is a powerful state of consciousness—one that every human will experience at some point in life. It is the emotional response to loss, whether it be the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the loss of an identity, or a shattered dream.

Grief is the gateway between despair and renewal, a profound emotion that carries immense energy. When left unresolved, it can keep a person trapped in sorrow, but when navigated with awareness, it becomes a catalyst for transformation and deeper wisdom.

If you are here, you are likely seeking answers, clarity, and a way forward. This crash course will take you on a journey through the depths of grief, unveiling:

The energy level of grief and how it affects your being
The log value of grief on the scale of consciousness
How grief shapes your worldview and colors your reality
How grief impacts your perception of God and spirituality
The life experiences of those caught in grief
A transformative process to move from grief to peace and awakening

By the end of this crash course, you will not only understand grief—you will learn how to transcend it and reclaim your life.

The Energy of Grief: The Emotional Gravity of Loss

The Vibration of Grief and Its Impact

Every emotion has a vibrational frequency that influences your perception of life. Grief is one of the lower vibrational states, marked by deep sorrow, longing, and emotional suffering.

How Grief Feels:

  • Overwhelming sadness and emotional pain

  • A feeling of emptiness or a void within

  • A sense of longing for what once was

  • The perception that life will never be the same

  • A loss of motivation, joy, and purpose

  • The tendency to cling to the past, unable to let go

Unlike apathy (which is characterized by numbness and detachment), grief is deeply emotional. It holds immense love, but that love is trapped in sorrow.

To move beyond grief, we must first understand where it stands on the scale of consciousness.

The Log Value of Grief: Understanding Its Place on the Scale of Consciousness

Grief ranks at Log 75 on the Scale of Consciousness, making it one of the lower emotional states.

📉 Grief is lower than fear or anger because it is a state of deep sadness rather than action.
📉 It is more energetic than apathy, but it is still a state of suffering.
📉 It creates a cycle of emotional pain, where one feels trapped in sorrow.

Grief carries more energy than shame (Log 20) and guilt (Log 30), meaning that even in suffering, there is movement. This means that grief is a transitionary state—one that, when navigated properly, leads to greater wisdom and love.

Grief is not the final destination. It is a passage to something greater.

How Grief Shapes Your Worldview: A Lens of Longing and Sorrow

Your dominant emotional state determines how you perceive reality.

🔻 The Worldview of Someone Stuck in Grief:

  • Life feels unfair and cruel

  • The past seems more valuable than the present or future

  • There is a deep fear of future loss

  • Change is perceived as painful rather than natural

  • There is an attachment to what is gone, rather than appreciation for what is present

People in grief often romanticize the past and resist moving forward, fearing that letting go means forgetting. But the truth is:

Grief is love unexpressed. Healing grief is not about forgetting—it is about integrating that love into the present.

How Grief Distorts the Perception of God

At every level of consciousness, our understanding of God or the divine shifts.

🛑 God as Seen from Grief (Log 75):

  • God is perceived as distant, unfair, or even cruel

  • Many ask, “Why did God take them away?” or “Why did this happen to me?”

  • Spirituality feels like a source of questions rather than answers

  • Faith may weaken, leading to a crisis of belief

Many who experience grief struggle with spiritual confusion—questioning whether there is a greater meaning behind loss. This is natural, as grief brings existential pain.

🔺 God as Seen from Higher Consciousness (Log 500+):

  • God is experienced as infinite love and intelligence

  • Life is seen as a continuous, evolving journey rather than a series of losses

  • The soul is understood to be eternal, transcending physical existence

Grief can serve as a spiritual teacher, leading to a deeper connection with the divine.

The Life Experience of Those Stuck in Grief

Grief can manifest in different ways:

Chronic sadness – Feeling emotionally heavy every day
Avoidance of joy – Feeling guilty for being happy again
Depression-like symptoms – Losing motivation for daily life
Reliving the past – Constantly replaying memories
Fear of new connections – Avoiding relationships to prevent future pain

However, grief does not have to be permanent. It is an energy that can be transmuted into a higher state of love and wisdom.

The key to healing grief is understanding its purpose.

The Transformation Process: Moving from Grief to Peace and Wisdom

Breaking free from grief is not about forgetting—it is about transforming sorrow into love.

Step 1: Recognize That Grief is a Natural Process

  • Grief is proof that you loved deeply

  • It is not weakness, but rather a sacred process of the heart

Step 2: Allow Yourself to Feel Without Resistance

  • Suppressing grief keeps you stuck in pain

  • Express your grief through journaling, talking, or creative outlets

Step 3: Shift from Longing to Gratitude

  • Instead of mourning what is lost, honor what was gained from the experience

  • Celebrate the love that existed rather than focus on its absence

Step 4: Reconnect with the Present Moment

  • Engage in activities that bring you back to life (nature, music, movement)

  • Find joy without guilt—happiness does not dishonor those you have lost

Step 5: Seek a Higher Understanding

  • Meditate on the eternal nature of love and consciousness

  • Realize that nothing is ever truly lost—only transformed

Grief, when embraced with awareness, becomes a bridge to wisdom.

Final Takeaway: Healing is Returning to Love

Grief is not a punishment—it is a sacred passage through love and loss.

🌟 You are NOT alone.
🌟 Your emotions are NOT your enemy—they are your guide.
🌟 Your journey does NOT end in grief—it transforms into wisdom.

🚀 Your Next Steps:
Honor your grief, but do not let it define you
Shift your focus from loss to the love that remains
Step into the present moment and live fully again

🌟 Grief is not the end. It is the doorway to a deeper understanding of love.